THE TRUTH ABOUT SEX MAGICK A New Era Begins? By Donald Michael Kraig Okay, I'll be the first one to admit it. Last night I masturbated. It's not that I needed to pleasure myself or had no other options. Rather, I wanted to. And further, I admit that I enjoyed it. No, I didn't enjoy it in the same way I would have enjoyed sex with a partner, but I enjoyed it for what it was; ecstatic sexual release. Now I have another confession. I do not have a fetish about, nor am I in love with my hand. We are not romantically involved. I don't call my hand on the phone and ask it for dates. I don't send my hand a dozen roses on Valentine's Day. According to every scientific study, all of you reading this have masturbated. And you've probably masturbated within the past few days or weeks. I'm not limiting this to men, either. Women masturbate, too. Men and women, with or without various sexual toys (pumps, vibrators, items from the kitchen or bathroom, etc.) masturbate. Few (if any!) are romantically in love with their fingers, hands or toys. The point I wish to make here is that every day, tens of millions of people masturbate. If you have done so recently (or perhaps are planning to do so tonight) you are not alone. In fact, your masturbation proves that you are a normal, sexual, human being. Why is it, then, that many self-styled authorities claim that sex magick should only be done with a partner with whom you are in love? Women: are you in love with that vibrator? Men: are you in love with your hands? I don't think so. The truth of the matter is that sex magick can be performed by any people. It can be performed with masturbation, with a partner or with several partners. You do not need to be in love with any of them to be highly successful with sex magick. So why do those experts claim otherwise? I can think of several reasons. Political correctness is one. For the PC among us it's okay to have sex with someone if you think you are in love with them, even if that sensation only lasts a few hours or days. Of course, that is a rationalization, but that is what some people believe. Mind-set is another reason for the false claim. Western culture is a de facto Christian culture, complete with anti-sexual attitudes that have bombarded most of us since birth. Someone brought up in this culture who has not defeated their personal, anti-sexual demons, may hold on to the no-sex-until-you're-married-and-then-don't-enjoy-it attitude. This can invade that person's writing and theorizing. Trying to win converts is another reason somebody might put forth this attitude. If you say sex is okay with any partner you choose (as long as that partner is of legal age and chooses you, too) you will turn off some of those who have bought the lie that the-only-good-sex-occurs-in-a-committed-in-love relationship. This is not meant as a condemnation of monogamy. Quite the contrary. For if people develop deeply held monogomistic beliefs and find a partner who has similar beliefs, they will find their greatest sexual pleasure (and greatest success with sex magick) by excluding all others. Elitist as this may sound; it is certainly the norm for many in modern Western society. Just as we enjoy masturbation, so to can we have powerful, enjoyable sexual activity, including performing sex magick, without being in love with our partner(s). Sex magick cannot be limited to only those with whom we are in love. *** Scientific reports clearly show that humans are meant to be sexual. Not having the energy flows resulting from sexual excitation can result in headaches, high blood pressure, increased physical/mental/emotional stress, impotence in men, anorgasmia in women and a variety of other problems. Our bodies know this: healthy bodies like sex. According to traditional Chinese medicine, one of the signs of health was lust: for life, exercise, wisdom, study, fun, food, living and, of course, sex. Some of you reading this may wonder why you have desires for sex with more than one partner. You may thank you are weird for not having feelings of needing to be monogamous. I'm writing this article to let you know that you are not alone. There is nothing wrong with you for wanting to have sex for pleasure or for magick with someone who is not your regular partner. Well, actually there is one thing wrong with it, and that is if you keep it a secret and deceive your partner. Radical honesty is necessary for a radical lifestyle. If your partner wants monogamy and you do not, it is time to change your mind or change your lifestyle. For a sex magician, cheating is not an option. Opening yourself and your partner(s) to a wider circle of lovers, energies and interests is an option. Love never subtracts. Love always multiplies. This is true in monogamous relationships as well as more open relationships. There is a popular saying which goes, Think globally, act locally. Some people who exalt family values are lying to you. The so-called family values they represent are of a family created during the later half of the last century. Before that families tended to be much larger and extended much further as clans. The family we see today, the so-called nuclear family, has resulted in increased isolation and fear of what might happen if we lose our jobs or become ill and there is no one to take care of us. That's why we (especially men) push ourselves to death at work. The nuclear family was intended to keep people working for low wages at jobs they hate. But that's another story. The question is, is there any evidence that not following those so-called family values might actually have a positive effect on society? The answer is a very loud, Yes! There is a species of chimpanzee known as the Bonobo. Some experts claim that the Bonobos are one of the closest evolutionary relatives to humans. The Bonobos are very interesting as there is one thing they really like to do: have sex. They have sex almost all the time. They have sex with relatives. They have sex with the same gender. They have sex with one partner or in groups. Some of the Bonobo females will go off and have sex with several males from another colony of Bonobos, the result of which keeps variety in the DNA. If you study chimpanzees, you will know that they have one thing in common with humans. They kill each other. They have wars. They get into violent arguments over meaningless things. Chimpanzees have been known to attack and kill humans. Only one type of chimpanzee doesn't do this: the Bonobos. They don't have fights. They don't have wars. Oh, they do have disagreements, but as soon as a couple start to fight, other Bonobos will literally drag them away and initiate sex with them! They are a literal manifestation of the Make Love, Not War credo of decades past. We could learn a lot from the Bonobos. *** What I want to reiterate is that in this coming era of sexual maturity, your choice of partners becomes exactly that: your choice. The same is true for practicing sex magick. It is, after all, just another form of magick. You need not include it among the methods of magick that you practice. If you do decide to use it, you can practice alone, with another person, or with several persons. Your choice. Your responsibility. For those interested in the subject, I would like to suggest a new approach. Instead of describing your sex magick practices based on the number of people involved in the ritual, focus on the direction of the energy. For example, if the energy of a ritual is focused on one person, it is still focused on that person whether or not that person practices alone, has a partner, or has 50 people in the room helping the ritual. If it's all focused on one person, if the energy is all directed to one person, it does not seem accurate to say that the forms of sex magick are different. They are all focused on sending energy to or through that one individual. In other forms of magick we do not differentiate based on the number of people in the room, rather we look at the purpose and direction of the ritual. Sex magick should be the same. What you may see here is that I am presenting a new attitude and a new way of looking as sex magick and sex magicians. Sex magick comes through from the most ancient of times, and it is one of the most potent forms of magick available to us today, if not the most potent. Magick, like much of physics and electricity, is based on working with polarities. For humans, the ultimate form of the magick of polarities is sex magick. 1997, Donald Michael Kraig | 
